Curiosity Before Reaction

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It happens to all of us at one time or another. During a conversation, someone uses a word or phrase that can be taken two different ways or may have a meaning the speaker is unaware of.

This can go in two very different directions. If the reaction to the comment takes a negative direction, both may feel like a victim of the other.

Both may also believe the other person is “wrong,” when neither person took the time to ask the other for clarity.

This cycle of confusion occurs more often when neither person understands or respects the other.

Isn’t It Easier?

Instead of an emotional reaction, it would be kinder if the initial speaker or listener had merely asked something like, “To make sure I understand, are you saying that . . .?” or “Do I understand correctly, are you saying . . .?”

When curiosity replaces reaction, the entire energy and tone changes. It is a heart-based maturity in place of “your wrong; I’m right.”

Your Experiences

How have you handled similar misunderstandings?  Was humor used or curiosity, or another graceful approach. We would love to hear your suggestions. A Comments section is below for your convenience.